Snart’s Rules For Success – HME Live 001

Snart’s Rules For Success – HME Live 001

Leonard Snart is a bad guy in the DC universe. He can be seen on The Flash and on Legends of Tomorrow. Yet there is a softer, good side to Snart that shows up from time to time. In a recent episode of The Flash, he offers some sage advice to young Barry Allen about what it takes to pull off a successful heist. He says there are 4 steps to a successful plan: Create the plan Execute the plan Expect the plan to go off the rails Throw away the plan In this episode of the podcast I discuss how we all follow Snart's first two steps and how successful people make their bones in steps 3 and 4. Being flexible about your methods for success allows you to adapt to all the crap life throws at you. Sometimes the best bit of advice is: Be stubborn about your goals, but flexible about your methods. Truly successful people are able to improvise, adapt, and...
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HME036 – Redemption: It Takes Two To Tango

HME036 – Redemption: It Takes Two To Tango

Redemption Scripture tells us that all things can be redeemed. Even if in life it seems like there's no way that's possible. Redemption in personal relationships, however, is a bit trickier. When relationships go south, 99.9% of the time no single party is at fault. It's usually that same percentage in fractured relationships where one party refuses to see or admit their part. This makes redemption impossible. For relationships to be redeemed, both parties have to want it and both parties have to be able to forgive and ask for forgiveness. This is an episode from the archives, when I believed that the redemption of my relationship with my family was just around the corner. The date of this episode is June 2015. In the two years since, I've learned to accept the lessons I talked and taught about in this episode. In particular, that redemption has to be a two way street. Without both parties wanting and working at it, any attempt to redeem a relationship...
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Integrity: The Less You Use It, The More You Have

Integrity: The Less You Use It, The More You Have

Integrity is defined as: the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness. the state of being whole and undivided Society today has an integrity deficit. Instead of trading in truths, bullshit and lies are the currency of the times. It doesn't matter if it's in relationships, in the workplace, or on the teevee. There is a serious deficit of people who have integrity and are congruent. Nowhere is this more visible than in the political realm. Just today I caught the tail end of an interview with Dr. Gina Loudon. Her brand is built on honesty, truth, and being a psychological, political, and social commentator. Now, according to her bio she's well educated. Yet in this interview 99% of what came out her mouth was bullshit and lies. Not little ones either. Big, flaming, disproved with 8 seconds on the Google lies. What does this say about her and her brand? What does this say about her expertise? Honestly, what it...
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The Titanic Poster On My Wall And Masculinity

The Titanic Poster On My Wall And Masculinity

When you think of a "manly" movie it's a pretty safe bet that Titanic doesn't make the top 50. It's universally thought of as a "chick flick" with almost no redeeming "manly" qualities about it. Yet when I think of it, I see it as not only a great love story, but Leonardo DiCaprio's Jack exemplifies a lot of what a man truly is. Titanic starts out with Jack taking hold of his future by winning a card game. The rest of the movie he seeks to prove he's more than his station in life. Yes, his life ends tragically by freezing to death in the ocean but for a few days he grabs the golden ring. Oh..and while, yes, there was room on the door for both, odds are the wood wasn't buoyant enough for the weight of two people. I love that movie. In fact, I still own the two cassette VHS version. At one point I even had the framed movie poster hanging...
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Lessons From The Election – Get Skin In The Game

Lessons From The Election – Get Skin In The Game

Thankfully the shitshow that was the 2016 American Presidential Election has ended. While the results are unexpected and, to many, disappointing, many things have become clear. One major thing is that there is an entire generation that, while heavily invested in the outcome, weren't up to putting some skin in the game. Our society has reached a point where slacktivism has replaced actual activism, actual action, in effecting change in the world. Too many people are protesting without organizing, without being dedicated to the long term effort it takes to bring about change. Our society wants things to happen quickly.... 7 minute Abs, point/click/make a gagillion dollars...but lacks the discipline to put forth continuous effort day in and day out. As the old saying goes: [Tweet theme="tweet-box-normal-blue"]If it's important, you'll find a way. If not, you'll find an excuse.[/Tweet] I heard too many excuses from people who wanted a certain outcome for the election but were 'too busy' to put their shoe leather to pavement. The...
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Hot Mess Express 027 – Be The Expert

Hot Mess Express 027 – Be The Expert

One of the most common pieces of advice I've given over the last few years is this. If you want to be the expert, then be the expert. I also say that the key to being the expert lies in your being confident. Back when I was in the Navy, my adviser gave me the best piece of advice I'd heard: [Tweet theme="tweet-box-shadow"]Answer confidently. Always. Even when you don't know the answer. #SecondLife[/Tweet] Confidence in yourself is the key to being seen as the expert. If you come across as unsure, indecisive, or easily swayed, your credibility will be damaged. When people don't see you as credible, they won't see you as an expert. The key to building your confidence is simple: [Tweet theme="tweet-box-normal-blue"]Decision + Action + Follow Through = Confidence[/Tweet] In order to get beyond the paralysis by analysis, begin making small decisions and then taking action. Decide what you want to eat and then eat it. Pick something out of the closet and wear it. For...
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