13 Reasons Why – A Parent’s Perspective

13 Reasons Why – A Parent’s Perspective

13 Reasons Why is a new Nexflix series based on the 2007 novel Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher. The show revolves around a student who kills herself after a series of culminating failures, brought on by select individuals within their school. While it has received some critical acclaim for addressing a difficult topic in a fairly real and unfiltered way, it has also received a great deal of criticism. The criticism appears to revolve around a few common points that don't really have a great deal of evidence to back them up. "It needs a trigger warning" The series is adapted from a book that tells a story that involves suicide, date rape, and bullying. That is the motif of the story. To be perfectly straightforward, I'm not sure what more of a 'warning' is needed. All of the info about the story is freely available on the electric internet machines the kids are using today. "It simplifies suicide as someone else to blame" I...
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Are Millennials Entitled Little Shits?

Are Millennials Entitled Little Shits?

The Entitled Generation A lot has been written about the millennial generation: they’re spoiled, entitled, soft, unable to deal with simple social situations, etc. A with any stereotype or generalization, there is a kernel of truth in what they say. Statistics and studies are beginning to detail how this generation has a higher incidence of depression and social anxiety. Simon Sinek recently pointed to one that showed more and more millennials are taking leave from college due claiming depression. In fact, the millennial generation is on track to have the highest percentage of members with mental health challenges. You have to stop and ask why. Why are so many millennials so unbalanced? It’s a complex issue that has no simple answer. Helicopter Parents My generation, Gen X, is the generation that bridged the ‘simpler times’ of the Boomer years and the social media/internet generations of the millennials.  We were the first generation to grow up with home video games, home computers, cable television, and the...
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Jason Momoa – 21st Century Man

Jason Momoa – 21st Century Man

I'll be honest. I don't really know much about Jason Momoa. Aside from his being cast as the new Aquaman, I claim ignorance. Then this video crossed my timeline. Watching this a few times has given me a deep appreciation for the type of man that Momoa is. Just by looking at him, you'd think he was your typical hypermasculine male stereotype. He's got the hair, the abs, the certain swagger in the way he carries himself. Yet while listening to him talk about his life's journey you're quick to realize that he is so much more than he appears to be on the surface. He's an artist, a dreamer, a father, and a visionary. Momoa talks about his journey as a wanderer and how experiencing the entire world shapes how he is as a father. It starts with appreciating the natural world, exploring and climbing, and then it moves on to art and music. From there it's about teaching his children discipline, integrity, hard...
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Hope Is A Very Dangerous Thing

Hope Is A Very Dangerous Thing

Hope Can Drive A Man Insane The following is an excerpt from my upcoming book. It's from a chapter on Pain and Guilt in estranged relationships and the danger of hope. You can’t explain what it’s like to mourn someone who is still alive unless you’ve experienced it first hand. This is what you’re doing now. There’s a sort of impermanence to the loss you’re experiencing because the other person is still alive. The most dangerous thing in the world is hope. Hope can carry us through the dark times and it can also keep us trapped in the cave. There’s no point in hoping things will go back to how they were. Sure, you think everything will be fine if it could just go back to the way it was, but it won’t. Remember, how it was before was most likely miserable. The stress, the arguments, the tension...these were all part of your ‘normal life’ prior to the estrangement. Hope masks this...
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Grace In The Parent Child Relationship

Grace In The Parent Child Relationship

Why won't my kids cut me some slack? As parents we're expected to, and do, extend grace to our kids when they make mistakes. We understand that they don't know all they need to know and don't have the life experience needed to make certain decisions. It comes with the territory, right?   Then how come it so damn difficult for them to return the grace when we screw up? [Tweet theme="basic-full"]Why won't my kids cut me some slack? #parenting[/Tweet] Every child is different, and every child responds to different parenting styles. As parents, we're going to screw up from time to time as we're learning how to best teach our kids what we want them to know. When our kids screw up, we extend them grace, understanding that they're doing the best with what they know. Unfortunately, that grace is seldom returned. Today's kids place expectations on their parents based on the glut of examples they get from friends, media, etc. Add to this having...
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