HME036 – Redemption: It Takes Two To Tango

HME036 – Redemption: It Takes Two To Tango

Redemption Scripture tells us that all things can be redeemed. Even if in life it seems like there's no way that's possible. Redemption in personal relationships, however, is a bit trickier. When relationships go south, 99.9% of the time no single party is at fault. It's usually that same percentage in fractured relationships where one party refuses to see or admit their part. This makes redemption impossible. For relationships to be redeemed, both parties have to want it and both parties have to be able to forgive and ask for forgiveness. This is an episode from the archives, when I believed that the redemption of my relationship with my family was just around the corner. The date of this episode is June 2015. In the two years since, I've learned to accept the lessons I talked and taught about in this episode. In particular, that redemption has to be a two way street. Without both parties wanting and working at it, any attempt to redeem a relationship...
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Share Your Scars, Not Your Open Wounds

Share Your Scars, Not Your Open Wounds

Open wounds can get infected if you keep picking at them and don't allow them to heal. Sharing them with the world can spread the infection further than you realize. If there's one thing I preach constantly is that you should tell your story. Nobody else has the right to prevent you from doing so. Yet in doing so, you must be careful to share your scars and not your open wounds. We all get wounded in life. Whether through our own choices and actions or inflicted upon us by others, it's impossible to get through life unmolested. In the age of social media, it's easy to take to the internet and share your wounds with the world. The only problem is that displaying your wounds openly can cause infection in other areas of your life. Tend to your wounds and let your scars tell the story. Time Heals Eventually the wounds will heal and leave scars. It's the scars that tell the whole story,...
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Imperfect Times Make The Best Memories

Imperfect Times Make The Best Memories

Imperfect Memories The imperfect times. Sure, we all can remember the good times, but what makes the strongest memories? What events do we laugh about for decades after they happen? My wife and I were watching Black-ish the other night, and it was all about trying to make the perfect Christmas memories. The oldest daughter was heading off to college and the dad wanted to make Christmas special because it was their last one. Now, this being a sitcom, you can imagine how it turned out....with the Christmas tree catching on fire and everything. Yes, Christmas had turned into a complete sh*tstorm. But at the end of the show, the dad said one thing: When perfect goes wrong, those are the memories that last forever. How true is this? Years ago, I'm talking the early 80's, my grandmother bought an RV for $900. She decided that over spring break, we would take a big family road trip from Michigan to Colorado to Las Vegas and back. Now,...
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3 Simple Ways To Deal With Toxic Family

3 Simple Ways To Deal With Toxic Family

Toxic family can be the most potent poison. From the time you're born, your family, their words, actions, and beliefs shape the person you become. Some of this is intentional, and most of it is totally unintentional. In fact, it falls under the umbrella of "we've always done it that way". Your parent's beliefs were shaped by their parents, and their parent's beliefs were shaped by their parents, and so on and so on. Now, while your beliefs, and that bullshit story we all tell ourselves, was formed by our families at a very early age, that doesn't mean that you can just lay all the blame at their feet for the way your life turned out. As you got older, and your knowledge of the world around you expanded, you became more and more responsible for making your own decisions. So, let's assume for the moment that you've identified your toxic beliefs and are making progress towards changing and eliminating them....
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