Hope Is A Very Dangerous Thing

Hope Is A Very Dangerous Thing

Hope Can Drive A Man Insane The following is an excerpt from my upcoming book. It's from a chapter on Pain and Guilt in estranged relationships and the danger of hope. You can’t explain what it’s like to mourn someone who is still alive unless you’ve experienced it first hand. This is what you’re doing now. There’s a sort of impermanence to the loss you’re experiencing because the other person is still alive. The most dangerous thing in the world is hope. Hope can carry us through the dark times and it can also keep us trapped in the cave. There’s no point in hoping things will go back to how they were. Sure, you think everything will be fine if it could just go back to the way it was, but it won’t. Remember, how it was before was most likely miserable. The stress, the arguments, the tension...these were all part of your ‘normal life’ prior to the estrangement. Hope masks this...
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Sometimes Victory Is Just Showing Up

Sometimes Victory Is Just Showing Up

The most super-awesome victory looks like a tiny victory. When I started this morning's post, this isn't at all the subject it was going to be about. Perhaps I'll save that for another edition of the Hot Mess Express podcast (shameless plug...go and subscribe now...trust me, it's awesome). Yet as they say...the best laid plans of mice and men...and I had a, well, not sure you could call it a dialogue, but a conversation with someone over FB this morning that pretty much derailed all that. In the past 18-24 months, more has happened than I think any normal human should ever have to deal with. It's been rumors, innuendo, backstabbing, anger, bitterness, and hurt feelings all around. I've been just as guilty as others. Top that off with having one of your kids hauled off in handcuffs and sent to a mental health facility for a week over Easter weekend, the challenges of helping your kid in coping with mental illness, and...
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