The Titanic Poster On My Wall And Masculinity

The Titanic Poster On My Wall And Masculinity

When you think of a "manly" movie it's a pretty safe bet that Titanic doesn't make the top 50. It's universally thought of as a "chick flick" with almost no redeeming "manly" qualities about it. Yet when I think of it, I see it as not only a great love story, but Leonardo DiCaprio's Jack exemplifies a lot of what a man truly is. Titanic starts out with Jack taking hold of his future by winning a card game. The rest of the movie he seeks to prove he's more than his station in life. Yes, his life ends tragically by freezing to death in the ocean but for a few days he grabs the golden ring. Oh..and while, yes, there was room on the door for both, odds are the wood wasn't buoyant enough for the weight of two people. I love that movie. In fact, I still own the two cassette VHS version. At one point I even had the framed movie poster hanging...
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Jason Momoa – 21st Century Man

Jason Momoa – 21st Century Man

I'll be honest. I don't really know much about Jason Momoa. Aside from his being cast as the new Aquaman, I claim ignorance. Then this video crossed my timeline. Watching this a few times has given me a deep appreciation for the type of man that Momoa is. Just by looking at him, you'd think he was your typical hypermasculine male stereotype. He's got the hair, the abs, the certain swagger in the way he carries himself. Yet while listening to him talk about his life's journey you're quick to realize that he is so much more than he appears to be on the surface. He's an artist, a dreamer, a father, and a visionary. Momoa talks about his journey as a wanderer and how experiencing the entire world shapes how he is as a father. It starts with appreciating the natural world, exploring and climbing, and then it moves on to art and music. From there it's about teaching his children discipline, integrity, hard...
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Language: Words We Use Can Build Up Or Destroy

Language: Words We Use Can Build Up Or Destroy

Language Matters Words have meaning and power. The language we use shapes how we see and interact with the world. Most people are unintentional about the words they choose. They simply just speak into existence whatever comes into their mind. People with a tolerant personality tend to use more inclusive and humanizing language while those who see the world in adversarial terms speak in more exclusive and dehumanizing language. The video above from Mayim Bialik put this theory, the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis, in very simple terms. When we call women 'girls', we're intentionally or unintentionally devaluing women and disempowering them. As she says, we wouldn't call professional men 'boys', so why do we call professional women 'girls'? Men, The Language We Use, And Respect Men are taught from a very young age that respect is linked to violence. We teach our sons to 'man up', 'toughen up', or 'grow some balls'. Phrases like 'I'd hit that', 'I'd tear that shit up', or 'I'd smack that ass' are...
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