We’ve all been there. Just when you think you’ve hit rock bottom, life opens a door and shoves you down the steps into the basement. It’s like when you discover the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train.
It’s enough to make you want to go
What do you do when life knocks you down then sneaks around behind you and kicks you in the balls?
Well, you can either writhe around in pain, bemoaning how horrible your life is or you can get up, look life in the face, and tell it that it hits like a bitch.
I know it’s easier said than done, but I’d rather face life head on than cower like a victim.Dear life, You hit like a bitch.
Shift Your Perspective
In a Ted Talk, Sarah Hernholm discusses how the shift from “to” to “for” can change how you see life’s troubles.
Everything we go through in life is a lesson we need to learn. I know, you’re calling bullshit on that, and I used to as well. Yet, once you develop the ability to see the big picture, life’s troubles don’t seem so big. In her talk, she discusses the three things she reminds herself of whenever trouble comes.
- Get Over Yourself
The world doesn’t owe you anything nor does it revolve around you. A simple way to shake off what’s troubling you is to do for someone else.
- Get Smart
This is my favorite. You only get one thought at a time, what do you want it to be? Do you want to focus on the shit sandwich life served you or on what lesson you’re supposed to learn? Instead of filling your mind with worry and stress, fill it with knowledge. Learn something new. Strengthen one of your weak skills. Focus on growth and not stagnation.
- Get Going
It’s easy to retreat into your blanket fort when life rejects you. Don’t. Often life smacks you to save you from yourself. Instead of focusing on what you think your missing out on, focus on something even better to come. Then go. Make it happen. Get off your ass and move.
Rock Bottom Is A Kickass Foundation
J.K. Rowling is quoted as saying “Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I built my life”. After hearing her story, it’s hard to argue. Some of the greatest inspirational figures rose from the ashes of their dumpster fire of a life to inspire millions, and even make a lucrative career of it.
- Shift your language – As long as you think life is happening “to” you, you’ll remain a victim.
- Practice gratitude – Seriously. Write down 3 things you’re grateful for when you’re in the midst of the storm.
- Be generous – Do for others. Period.
But most of all, don’t quit.
Life happens to every single one of us. It’s up to you to decide how you’ll respond.