Pain. Nobody likes it and we all do everything we can to avoid it. Even if we’re in pain in the situations we’re in, we’d rather stay there than suffer through the greater pain of change. You’d like to believe life is about seeking pleasure, but it’s not. Life, for most people, is wholly about living with a minimum amount of pain.

While on the surface this may seem to be a good idea, it’s not. It’s just a form of self sabotage.

[Tweet theme=”tweet-box-normal-blue”]Take Chances. Make Mistakes. Pain Nourishes Your Courage – Mary Tyler Moore[/Tweet]

Pain is Realization

If you’re feeling pain, you realize there’s something wrong or missing in your life. It shows up as an aching in your soul or a general ‘meh’ feeling. It’s also an indicator that you need to change.

[Tweet theme=”tweet-box-normal-blue”]The first step to solving a problem is admitting there is one – Zig Ziglar[/Tweet]

There’s wisdom in Zig’s words. What you allow in your life is what will continue. If your marriage sucks yet you don’t divorce, your marriage will always suck. If your finances suck and you don’t change your income or expenses, your finances will always suck. Until the pain of where you are forces you to come to a realization that there is a problem, nothing in your life will ever change.


20 Seconds of Insane Courage

In the movie “We Bought A Zoo“, Benjamin Mee (played by Matt Damon) says:

“You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.”

99% of the stuff you worry about never happens. The reason 90% of people never make changes in their lives is because they’re captive to ‘What If?” They ask ‘what if people don’t like me?’ or ‘what if people think I’m weird?’ or ‘what if I fail?’

So what?

If you hold yourself captive to what other people think of you, you’ll never get anywhere in life.

If you never try anything new, you’ll be stuck where you are. As Master Shifu said in Kung Fu Panda 3

“If you only do what you can do, you’ll never be better than what you are”

Change involves risk. It involves pain. It involves uncertainty.

If you want to live a kick ass life of awesomeness, you must embrace pain as necessary. When you do, you’ll find that what you experience is nowhere near as painful as you imagined.

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