Midlife Crisis – A Time For Rebirth And Renewal

Midlife Crisis – A Time For Rebirth And Renewal

A midlife crisis isn’t a time to mourn what once was. It’s a time to celebrate the birth of what is yet to come.

I’m willing to bet that right now you’re feeling stuck, lost, in a fog, trapped….and many other synonyms…and you’re wondering to yourself “exactly how the f*ck did I get here?”

I get it…you had plans. You had dreams.

Then one day it happened. You woke up, looked at yourself in the mirror, and wondered how the hell you ended up here.

Well, I have some good news and some bad news.

The bad news is, you’re here because you chose to be. Little by little, every decision you made took you down the path that has brought you to where you are. From the first job that paid you enough to give up on your dreams to every time you said “no” to new adventures to every time you settled for what was offered instead of waiting for what you wanted…you chose this life, it didn’t chose you.

The good news is that if you’re reading this, you’re not dead. You can start making better decisions today. You can get back on the path that was in front of you when you were younger. The path of a life full of passion and adventure. The path where you’re living into your full self, not some watered down, beaten down, version of you.

How do I know?

I’ve been there.

Now, I know you’re thinking to yourself that there ain’t no way in hell you’re having a midlife crisis.  You’re the wrong age. You don’t suddenly want a convertible sports car. Nuking your entire career to pursue your life long dream of being a beat poet just seems stupid. You don’t want to trade your significant other in for a newer model.

So how the hell can you possibly be having a midlife crisis?

You are.

This isn’t a simple ‘questioning your decision’ time in your life, this is a full blown pondering the entire meaning of your existence time of your life. While this can be a good thing, and healthy reflection on your life is always a good thing, as Nic Beets, from Couple Work in Auckland, New Zealand says

“A mid life crisis is a good and normal thing to have.  We should pause in mid-life and reflect on the choices we’ve made and consider if they are serving us well.  The danger is in thinking “I’ve done the wrong things – married the wrong person, taken the wrong job, lived in the wrong city…” Then we are likely  to rush out and do something else – take a new lover, buy a new car  etc etc.  The real profit comes from reflecting on who I have been and the way I have been being.   Reflecting on this honestly helps us see the ways we have been undermining or thwarting our committed relationships.”

A Midlife Crisis Isn’t The End

In fact, more often than not, it’s the beginning…a rebirth…of who you were always meant to be before life got in the way.

So, congratulations! You’ve reached the point where you’re ‘mad as hell’ and you’re ‘not going to take it anymore!”. You’ve taken your first steps towards rediscovering yourself and creating a you that will be a better:

  • parent
  • partner
  • child
  • servant to the world

So, what are you waiting for?

2 responses to “Midlife Crisis – A Time For Rebirth And Renewal”

  1. Hi Christain,
    You have hit the nail right on theat sore spot for most of us.
    I had my midlife crisis early first huge change was at 35 left tweenty years of cooking to be a financail adviser.
    Aafter the crash i had to revent self again.
    Michael

    • csalafia says:

      Michael,

      Thanks so much for sharing your story. More and more I hear similar stories from other men who, when they hit their mid 30’s, realize that what they’re doing isn’t something that they’re passionate about.

      Congrats on making the leap, brother!

      Christian

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