Flaws Are The Gift Of Identity
When you begin a period of self reflection, it’s inevitable that you’re going to see your flaws. That is, naturally, if you’re doing it right. Honest self reflection will reveal everything about you, and some of what you’ll see isn’t going to be flattering.
Too often we’re all about presenting a beautifully polished face to the public, as if our flaws are something to be ashamed of. They’re not. Your imperfections are what make you uniquely you, and that you is beautiful.
In today’s social media driven, narcissistic world, people often use others’ flaws as cyber-weapons, throwing stones and casting darts from behind the safety of a screen. It’s no different than growing up when children tease each other for being ‘different’.
Yet, when you embrace your flaws, nobody can use them against you.
In the movie 8 Mile, Eminem plays an up and coming rapper. He spends most of the movie trying to run away from who he is. It isn’t until he embraces who he is does he begin to see the depth of his talent.
The scene above is the final rap battle of the movie. In it, Eminem realizes that all his opponent has are his flaws and shortcomings. So, in order to defeat him, he turns them around with a big “Yeah? So what?!” leaving his opponent stunned and powerless.Without your flaws, you wouldn’t be you
When you embrace everything about you, nobody can use your shortcomings against you. You take away the power your haters and detractors have and expose them for the cowardly bullies they are.
It’s really that simple.
In reality, admitting, accepting, and understanding that we are flawed can go a long way towards keeping us on the path of growth. Being flawed imbues us with a greater strength than we realize. In the Christian tradition, there’s a passage that says “I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses” and “For when I am weak, then I am strong”. When we name our weaknesses, our vulnerabilities, it takes away the power they have over us.
Those that abuse us seek to keep us ashamed of our weakness, of our vulnerability. When we stand up and name our shame, it no longer controls us. It empowers us and it empowers others to do the same.
For it is only exposing our darkest secrets, our deepest shame, can the light of healing get in.