The imperfect times. Sure, we all can remember the good times, but what makes the strongest memories? What events do we laugh about for decades after they happen?
My wife and I were watching Black-ish the other night, and it was all about trying to make the perfect Christmas memories. The oldest daughter was heading off to college and the dad wanted to make Christmas special because it was their last one.
Now, this being a sitcom, you can imagine how it turned out….with the Christmas tree catching on fire and everything. Yes, Christmas had turned into a complete sh*tstorm.
But at the end of the show, the dad said one thing:
When perfect goes wrong, those are the memories that last forever.
How true is this?
Years ago, I’m talking the early 80’s, my grandmother bought an RV for $900. She decided that over spring break, we would take a big family road trip from Michigan to Colorado to Las Vegas and back. Now, just on its face, this is an insane idea. Over a dozen people crammed into a small RV for a week travelling over 5000 miles.
You know what I remember from that trip?
- Waking up to my mom driving on the median in the middle of a blizzard.
- Freaking out we weren’t going to make it up Wolf Creek Pass.
- Having to have someone outside the bathroom because it automatically locked you in.
- Having to hold the fridge shut every time we turned right.
- Losing a fan belt 14 miles outside of Las Vegas
- Losing a thermostat in the middle of nowhere Arizona
- Getting a flat tire just as we crossed into Michigan
- My cousins teasing cows in a trailer and having them fling poo on them with their tails.
Quit stressing yourself out!
I’m sure there were other things that happened during the trip, but these are the ones my cousins and I talked and laughed about for years afterwards.
It’s the imperfect times that made the best memories.
Too often we stress ourselves out over trying to create perfection. Whether it’s a wedding, birthday, vacation, or just a dinner date, we stress about every single detail. Then, when things don’t match the image we’ve imagined, we feel like we’re a failure.
Learn to relax and live in the moment. Enjoy everything about the experience: the good, the bad, and the complete disaster.
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