HME 20 – Nostalgia Is A Seductive Liar
Nostalgia Is A Bitch
Nostalgia is a seductive liar that smooths all the rough edges of your past. Do you ever look back on your past memories and longingly wish things could ‘be like they used to be’? Do you wish you could rekindle an old relationship because you’re sure they were ‘the one that got away’?
That’s nostalgia talking. It’s you longing for an imaginary past that never existed.
Oh boy, when you’re dead, you don’t take nothing with you but your soul – John Lennon
There’s a running gag in my family that is built around my grandfather driving off to heaven in his 1970’s Gold Mercury Montego, all of his belongings packed in the trunk, shouting “Who says you can’t take it with you!” as he disappears into the sky.
Social media makes it easy to reconnect with people and relationships in our past. Sometimes that can be a good thing. Sometimes, though, it can be awful. You’re not the same person you were 10, 20, 30 years ago and neither are they. Your relationship won’t be as you remembered.
When you’re creating the life you want, sometimes it’s best to leave those memories collecting dust in a box in your garage, and sometimes it’s best if you just throw them away.
My grandfather (in my dad’s dream) may have asked “Who says you can’t take it with you?”
The answer is nobody…but sometimes, why the hell would you want to?