Colin Kaepernick – Hot Mess Or Hero?

In the last 24 hours, Colin Kaepernick has become the whipping boy for a good portion of America. What what his crime? Not standing for the National Anthem. That’s it. When the anthem was played at this weekend’s San Francisco 49ers preseason game, Kaepernick found a spot among the Gatorade coolers and sat quietly. Judging by the reaction of the sports world, and society in general, you’d have thought he dug up Vince Lombardi’s body and peed on it at the 50 yard line. After the game, he was asked why he didn’t stand. He said: “”I am not going to stand up to show pride in a flag for a country that oppresses black people and people of color,” Kaepernick told NFL Media’s Steve Wyche, confirming Pro Football Talk’s original report. “To me, this is bigger than football, and it would be selfish on my part to look the other way. There are bodies in the street and people getting paid leave...
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How @samueladamsbeer Won A Customer For Life

In the span of about 60 hours this week, I had two distinctly different customer service experiences. One experience ended up ensuring they had a customer for life, while the other ensured they’d lost a customer forever. On Wednesday this week, my oldest daughter and I went to dinner at a local TGIFriday;s. Now, I like Friday’s. I like their food, the vibe, the happy hour specials. Our family has been a customer of theirs for years. On this night, however, the ridiculously poor service ensured that neither I nor my family would be going back to their restaurant again. Long story short, the place wasn’t busy, maybe half a dozen tables had people, yet we had to wait an inordinate amount of time for our server to come by and after he took our orders, he never once came back to see if we needed another drink, if the food was good…anything. On the other side, this Thursday I brought home...
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You Are A Badass Unicorn…So Act Like It!

You are a badass unicorn. There is nobody on this planet that is you-er than you and not one single soul will use your unique talents and gifts the way that you do. So, why do you spend your time begging you and everyone else around you to think that you’re a loser? Self deprecating humor is asking everyone to think of us as a loser. And not in the loveable “Charlie Brown” kind of way, but at the pathetic member of the group that has nothing to offer except to be a walking punchline. Making yourself into a joke is one of the most effective means of self-sabotage in our repertoire. Whether we think it’s true or not, our subconscious mind takes it in as the truth and adds that to the filter through which we see life. Being able to laugh at ourselves is important. Constantly taking life way too seriously imparts the belief that there’s no room in life for...
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HME 22 – Your Inner Child Is A Dumbass

Your Inner Child Is A Dumbass A serious dumbass. Think back to all the things you did as a kid, and soon you’ll realize what a dumbass you really were. Curious? Yes. Playful? Yes. And in a lot of ways, dumber than shit. When I was a kid I didn’t realize you shouldn’t unscrew an electric outlet while it still had power. Although I did learn that lesson very quickly when I got shocked and thrown down a set of stairs. Psychology teaches that our beliefs that shape our worldview are imprinted in out subconscious by the time we reach our teen years. The things we learn, the examples we see, the things we believe, they’re all installed into your life’s operating system before you get your driver’s license. So, let me ask you this. If, when you look back, you realize what a dumbass you were as a kid…. WHY THE FUCK DO YOU LET THAT KID RUN YOUR LIFE?? That dumbass kid is like...
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HME 21 – Tony Robbins Says ‘Blame Elegantly’

Blame Elegantly Blame. It’s the great excuse maker. It’s so simple to point your fingers at other people, other circumstances, and blame them for your life sucking the way it does. Blaming absolves you of taking responsibility for having made the crap decisions that brought you to this point. This weekend, I watched the Tony Robbins documentary on Netflix “I Am Not Your Guru”. During one of the filmed interventions, he told a young woman that if she was going to blame her dad for all the bad shit in her life, she damn well better blame him for all the good stuff, too. If her dad was the person she wanted him to be, and they had the relationship she wished they’d had, she wouldn’t be half the person she is today. When you assume…. It’s easy to put our own assumptions on other people and say that ‘they should have known better’ or that ‘they CHOSE not to behave differently’, when the...
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HME 20 – Nostalgia Is A Seductive Liar

Nostalgia Is A Bitch Nostalgia is a seductive liar that smooths all the rough edges of your past.  Do you ever look back on your past memories and longingly wish things could ‘be like they used to be’? Do you wish you could rekindle an old relationship because you’re sure they were ‘the one that got away’? That’s nostalgia talking. It’s you longing for an imaginary past that never existed. Oh boy, when you’re dead, you don’t take nothing with you but your soul – John Lennon There’s a running gag in my family that is built around my grandfather driving off to heaven in his 1970’s Gold Mercury Montego, all of his belongings packed in the trunk, shouting “Who says you can’t take it with you!” as he disappears into the sky. Social media makes it easy to reconnect with people and relationships in our past. Sometimes that can be a good thing. Sometimes, though, it can be awful. You’re not the same person you...
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Depression Is A Bitch

Every year, over 6 million men suffer from depression. Even so, it’s still one of those things that we just don’t talk about enough. Too many men struggle year in and year out in silence because society has taught us to believe that if we admit we’re struggling, we’re some how less of a man. As someone who has struggled with depression for almost 20 years now, I can say, with confidence, that that’s utter bullshit. Suffering in silence is the WORST thing you can do. Suffering in silence can lead to: Health problems Damaged relationships Troubles on the job Financial problems In fact, suffering in silence can make things even worse. I’ve struggled with this on and off for a couple decades…and perhaps even longer. Over the years I’ve learned: how to manage the ups and downs, how to recognize when a downswing is coming, and how to positively affect my mental state to lessen the severity and length of a downswing. Changing your physical state can greatly impact...
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7 Days In Hawaii

Seven days in Hawaii changed the course of my life forever. Seven days and thousands of dollars. The year was 2012. I had taken my first jump into being an entrepreneur, a jump I took without a parachute. I was sick of my job, sick of living an ‘average’ life and finally bought into the belief that being an entrepreneur was my ticket to freedom. Man, did I have plans…. vacations, cars, philanthropy, you name it. Monetarily, my first venture was a Titanic level failure. It didn’t help that the company I joined went from personal development to real estate investing in a period of about 6 months, yet sometimes, even in crashing and burning, the entire course of your life could change for the better. In the summer of 2012, I took my entire family to Hawaii for a vacation/live event. Even though the investment in doing so was enormous, there was just something telling me I had to be there. I...
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Getting Addicted To Progress

Once you decide to change your life and take action to put those decisions into motion, you can become addicted to the idea of making progress. You begin to see the danger in staying the same, the inherent riskiness in just maintaining the status quo. It’s as if the proverbial scales have fallen from your eyes and you begin to see things clearer than you’ve ever seen them before. Even more, the more progress you make, the more decisive you become, the more addicted you get. This isn’t a bad thing. In fact, getting addicted to making progress and bettering yourself leads to a better life for you AND for those you care about. You become someone who can be trusted, who is a leader, who can inspire simply by going about your day to day activities. On the downside, though, it makes accepting where you are a near impossibility. Indecisive people begin to frustrate you. The pace of corporate life begins to...
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From Miserable To Hot Mess – Part 1

It’s not much of a secret that I used to be a very miserable man. I always knew I was meant for something greater, I just didn’t have the tools or the confidence to go for it. I was one of the perpetual daydreamers, always living in an imagined future as an escape from the miserable life I was living. It took a great deal of pain, and a bold step in faith, before I had the courage to change things. There’s no such thing as an overnight success…or at least it’s very rare… like finding some Honus Wagner baseball cards at a garage sale rare. Most folks who seem to be an overnight success only seem that way because they woke up one night from the depths of a soul crushing nightmare and decided things had to change. Their, and your, story doesn’t begin where you think it does. Often, it begins long, long before you decided, and took action, to...
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