Not Everyone Will Love You And That’s OK

Not Everyone Will Love You And That’s OK

Not everyone is going to love you. That's just life. That is also a-ok. As I was watching the Democratic debate this past weekend, the moderator asked all the candidates if "corporate America would love them". Two of the candidates answered "No". Hillary Clinton, though, answered "everyone should". I cringed when I heard this. This is an attitude that says "It's more important for everyone to like me than it is to be myself". [Tweet theme="basic-full"]Not everyone is going to love you, and that's ok![/Tweet] You don't want everyone to love you. You just don't. You don't want to lose the core of yourself by contorting to fit into everyone else's boxes, tossing your principles aside because if you keep them you won't fit, or censoring parts of your personality because they might not be appreciated by everyone. I read something recently that really struck a nerve: If your principles change depending on your circumstances, you don't have principles, you have hobbies. Reading that was like a punch to the gut. It was...
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7 Commandments Of Clean Eating

7 Commandments Of Clean Eating

7 COMMANDMENTS FOR CLEAN EATING What is clean eating? I know I asked that question when I began to see those word pop up on Facebook, as hashtags on Instagram, and in blog posts. Well, it’s pretty simple. Simply put, clean eating is eating whole, healthy foods. That’s it. No need to complicate it beyond that. So, without further ado, here are 7 simple rules to help you start eating clean: Eat Real One of the first things is to eat real food… stuff that comes straight out of the ground or raised on a farm. If it doesn’t come straight from either one of those places, it most likely ain’t real. Eat Naked Not yourself…well, you can, but that’s your deal. Eating naked means ditching the boxed and prepackaged foods. No more TV dinners, boxed lasagnas, or anything with a “flavor packet”. Eat What You Can Pronounce If it comes from a lab, odds are it isn’t all that good for you. Additives like high fructose corn...
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Sometimes Victory Is Just Showing Up

Sometimes Victory Is Just Showing Up

The most super-awesome victory looks like a tiny victory. When I started this morning's post, this isn't at all the subject it was going to be about. Perhaps I'll save that for another edition of the Hot Mess Express podcast (shameless plug...go and subscribe now...trust me, it's awesome). Yet as they say...the best laid plans of mice and men...and I had a, well, not sure you could call it a dialogue, but a conversation with someone over FB this morning that pretty much derailed all that. In the past 18-24 months, more has happened than I think any normal human should ever have to deal with. It's been rumors, innuendo, backstabbing, anger, bitterness, and hurt feelings all around. I've been just as guilty as others. Top that off with having one of your kids hauled off in handcuffs and sent to a mental health facility for a week over Easter weekend, the challenges of helping your kid in coping with mental illness, and...
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Tony Robbins: Get Out Of Your Funk

Tony Robbins: Get Out Of Your Funk

In this two minute video from Business Insider, Tony Robbins gives you the straight skinny on how you can pull yourself out of your funk. [Tweet "Life is far too short to feel like crap."] That's not to say that you won't have bad days, but as Tony says, you don't have to live there. When you have a bad day, experience it, acknowledge it, and then move forward. I know it sounds easy. I also know it's not easy to do. Yet what purpose is there in sulking in your bad times? Sure, you might gather a crowd around you who will share in your misery before dismissing your misery and tromping all over it by making their misery more important...or better yet, feed your misery because your feeling bad make them fell better about themselves. Like anything, you can train yourself to be positive. [Tweet "You get what you tolerate"] Don't tolerate being miserable. Don't tolerate being around miserable people. Set your sights and your standards high....
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7 Ways To Raise Your Self Esteem

7 Ways To Raise Your Self Esteem

"I'm not good enough." "I'm not pretty enough." "Nobody cares what I have to say." I'm sure you've said these things, or other things like them, to yourself plenty of times in your life. Hell, I know I have. I also know I got sick and tired of kicking my own ass and holding myself back from unleashing all the awesomeness I had inside myself. Aren't you tired of it, too? Aren't you tired of living a mediocre life, dealing with regret, meandering from day to day because your self esteem sucks? My low self esteem drove me to make stupid decisions in all areas of my life...in how I handled money, the relationships I chose, and even in my career. The good news is that I learned how to boost my self esteem, build my self respect, and finally start moving towards living the life I always wanted to live. Best part is, anyone can do it. [Tweet theme="normal-blue"]You is kind. You is smart. You is important.[/Tweet] Having healthy self esteem...
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Midlife Crisis – A Time For Rebirth And Renewal

Midlife Crisis – A Time For Rebirth And Renewal

A midlife crisis isn't a time to mourn what once was. It's a time to celebrate the birth of what is yet to come. I'm willing to bet that right now you're feeling stuck, lost, in a fog, trapped....and many other synonyms...and you're wondering to yourself "exactly how the f*ck did I get here?" I get it...you had plans. You had dreams. Then one day it happened. You woke up, looked at yourself in the mirror, and wondered how the hell you ended up here. Well, I have some good news and some bad news. The bad news is, you’re here because you chose to be. Little by little, every decision you made took you down the path that has brought you to where you are. From the first job that paid you enough to give up on your dreams to every time you said “no” to new adventures to every time you settled for what was offered instead of waiting for what you wanted…you...
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Be Successful Without Being An Asshat

Be Successful Without Being An Asshat

Can You Be Successful Without Being An Asshat? There are plenty of successful asshats. Problem is, no matter how successful they are, they're still an asshat. There's always been a lot of talk about how becoming successful means you have to be ruthless, unethical, and a downright asshat. Movies have portrayed this, popular fiction has portrayed this. Two of the most popular movies, Wolf of Wall Street and Wall Street, are homages to gaining success by being an asshat. Well, Marie Forelo of MarieTV, believes that not only do you not have to be an asshat to be successful, but doing so can actually be detrimental to your business. In today's world, authenticity is making a comeback. Honestly, I think it's well past time. The days of slick production, focus-group tested messages are over. With the explosive growth of social media, more and more 'celebrities', once thought to be unreachable, are embracing and interacting with their fans outside of controlled environments. Personally, I love...
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It’s Not Locker Room Talk, Donald

It’s Not Locker Room Talk, Donald

I've been in a locker room once or twice in my life and I can honestly say I've never, EVER, heard men talk about women the way Donald Trump did. In fact, the only time I've heard a man say anything like that, it was immediately met with loud and vocal condemnation. Yet, here we are, living in a society where talking about sexually assaulting women is brushed aside as 'that's just what men do'. Wrong. Men speak of women with respect and they teach their sons to speak with respect. They stand in the breech to defend and protect the women in their lives. All politics aside, in the end it comes down to character. There's a scripture passage that says: [Tweet theme="tweet-box-shadow"]Out of an abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks[/Tweet] Character is who you are when you think nobody is watching. The excuse that it was a "private conversation" speaks to the character, more precisely the lack of character, of the one saying these words.   Men, your sons...
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Your Life Is Not A Journey, It’s A Dance

Your Life Is Not A Journey, It’s A Dance

One of the most popular sayings is "Life is a journey, not a destination". Sounds great, right? It's not. We've all been on journeys, and think about what the penultimate goal was...to get somewhere. A journey implies that there is a destination in mind, a finish line, a 'thing' you finally reach so you can rest. You undergo this journey to celebrate it's end. Is that how you want your life to be? To celebrate the end of things? Rejoice that something is over? Not me. To me, life is a piece of music, with each note to be savored mentally and emotionally. It's a dance to be danced with someone you love while that music is playing. I'm not concerned about getting somewhere. Alan Watts - Why Your Life Is Not A Journey from David Lindberg on Vimeo. I'd rather focus on being somewhere. The next time your life seems chaotic, take a second to stop and look around. Be present in the chaos. Look for things in...
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Pain Is Necessary For You To Grow

Pain Is Necessary For You To Grow

Pain. Nobody likes it and we all do everything we can to avoid it. Even if we're in pain in the situations we're in, we'd rather stay there than suffer through the greater pain of change. You'd like to believe life is about seeking pleasure, but it's not. Life, for most people, is wholly about living with a minimum amount of pain. While on the surface this may seem to be a good idea, it's not. It's just a form of self sabotage. [Tweet theme="tweet-box-normal-blue"]Take Chances. Make Mistakes. Pain Nourishes Your Courage - Mary Tyler Moore[/Tweet] Pain is Realization If you're feeling pain, you realize there's something wrong or missing in your life. It shows up as an aching in your soul or a general 'meh' feeling. It's also an indicator that you need to change. [Tweet theme="tweet-box-normal-blue"]The first step to solving a problem is admitting there is one - Zig Ziglar[/Tweet] There's wisdom in Zig's words. What you allow in your life is what will continue. If...
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