The Second Day Is The Hardest Day

The Second Day Is The Hardest Day

The hardest day is always the day after you begin something new. Conventional wisdom, although is that it takes 21 days to create a new habit. Whether or not this is correct is really irrelevant. Creating a new habit takes time, perseverance, and dedication. More often than not, the second day is the most difficult. The first day of a new habit is exciting because it's new. You're motivated, and ready to tackle that "thing" you've been putting off forever. Then comes the next day, and the next, and the next. Soon the new habit loses it's luster and the excitement wears off. By Valentine's Day your new habits and resolutions have fallen by the wayside. Your life returns to the way it was and you resign yourself to the false belief that nothing ever changes. The best example is starting a new habit of working out. January is the busiest time in any gym around the world. Losing weight and getting fit are...
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A New You: What’s Next?

A New You: What’s Next?

What's Your Plan? So, it's New Year's Day. The first day of a new year. If you're like most people, you're staring at 365 brand new days, 365 brand new chances to create the life you truly want. So, you sit down at a blank page and ask yourself...What's next? Start With The End In Mind The only way you can know which path to take is to be firm on what your destination truly is. Otherwise you'll just be rambling along the sidewalks and roads simply hoping you'll end up where you want to go. Don't just say you want to lose weight, name the number and clearly defined your goal. Instead of saying you want to make more money, define a specific amount for the year and then break it down by month, week, or day. Want to find love? Clearly define the attributes you desire and, more importantly those you don't want, and then start living them. When you have clarity around your goal, the...
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The Only Resolution You Need In 2017

The Only Resolution You Need In 2017

Well, it's New Year's Eve and people all around the world are making their New Year's Resolutions. Statistics show that most resolutions are broken or abandoned by Valentine's Day. So why put yourself behind the curve by making a list of things you aren't fully committed to? Instead, make one single resolution for the coming year and for every year following. Make a resolution to create. Skip the usual lists: lose weight, exercise, save money, etc. Focus on creation in the new year. In the next 12 months you can create: A healthier you Memories Your own brand Community Space Art The life you want That's what great about creation...it's an open ended process. You can create anything you want. And creation is a noble form of rebellion in a world gone mad....
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Simon Sinek And The Millennial Question

Simon Sinek And The Millennial Question

Millennial Victims A video of Simon Sinek talking about the 'millennial question', breezed through my Facebook timeline recently. On the first viewing, I thought it to be an excellent explanation of how people of my generation, GenX, can relate to and lead the millennial generation in the workplace. Even after watching it a few times, he makes some very valid points. Yet there is one major flaw in his answer and, unfortunately it's one of the major foundation points of his thesis. Where Simon Is Right I'm now one of the 'older guys' in the work environment. Honestly, I'm not sure how the hell that happened, but it has. I look around my workplace and I see two groups of people: Those like me, 20+ years into their careers, and the 'new kids', those who graduated college after my kids graduated high school and, in some cases, are younger than my oldest daughter. It's been a shock to my system coming to terms with this. At...
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Christmas Isn’t Merry When You’re #Estranged

Christmas Isn’t Merry When You’re #Estranged

Unmerry Christmas Christmas. It's that time of year when everyone is a little sappier, happier, and love seems to fill the air. It's a time for friends and family, to celebrate the memories of the last year. Yet for many people, Christmas is a time of sadness and of longing. It's a time of mourning relationships gone by and of remembering people who are no longer here. And for some, it's a time that simply reminds them that they've been cast aside by those they love. This will be the second Christmas I am estranged from my two daughters. I know there will be no cards in the mail, no text messages coming from them. They've made the decision that they don't want anything to do with their dad. That's the choice they've made. Honestly, since everything went down, I dread the holiday season. Actually, my dread begins in early November, my birthday month, and runs through the first of the year. Last year I didn't put...
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Imperfect Times Make The Best Memories

Imperfect Times Make The Best Memories

Imperfect Memories The imperfect times. Sure, we all can remember the good times, but what makes the strongest memories? What events do we laugh about for decades after they happen? My wife and I were watching Black-ish the other night, and it was all about trying to make the perfect Christmas memories. The oldest daughter was heading off to college and the dad wanted to make Christmas special because it was their last one. Now, this being a sitcom, you can imagine how it turned out....with the Christmas tree catching on fire and everything. Yes, Christmas had turned into a complete sh*tstorm. But at the end of the show, the dad said one thing: When perfect goes wrong, those are the memories that last forever. How true is this? Years ago, I'm talking the early 80's, my grandmother bought an RV for $900. She decided that over spring break, we would take a big family road trip from Michigan to Colorado to Las Vegas and back. Now,...
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Grace In The Parent Child Relationship

Grace In The Parent Child Relationship

Why won't my kids cut me some slack? As parents we're expected to, and do, extend grace to our kids when they make mistakes. We understand that they don't know all they need to know and don't have the life experience needed to make certain decisions. It comes with the territory, right?   Then how come it so damn difficult for them to return the grace when we screw up? [Tweet theme="basic-full"]Why won't my kids cut me some slack? #parenting[/Tweet] Every child is different, and every child responds to different parenting styles. As parents, we're going to screw up from time to time as we're learning how to best teach our kids what we want them to know. When our kids screw up, we extend them grace, understanding that they're doing the best with what they know. Unfortunately, that grace is seldom returned. Today's kids place expectations on their parents based on the glut of examples they get from friends, media, etc. Add to this having...
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2016 – The Best Year Ever!

2016 – The Best Year Ever!

2016- What A Year It's Been (Subscribe to mah YouTube channel for more awesomeness!) Ask just about anyone and they'll say they're glad to see 2016 come to an end. To call this year a dumpster fire is to be kind. In reality, it's been more of a shit sandwich than anything else. Yet, if you focus on how lousy 2016 was or on the preponderance of bad news, you'll miss what a kick ass year it was. "A kick ass year?" you say, "Surely you're f*cking kidding!" I'm not. Despite all of the challenges 2016 is a damn good year. Just this year I have been able to: celebrate Johnny and Christopher's wedding in New Orleans take a whirlwind trip to Northern Virginia and a couple days in Washington, DC spend a weekend in Gatlinburg, Tennessee before the wildfires destroyed it spend a week on the beach in Sarasota ride the roller coasters in Busch Gardens Plus, I still have a roof over my...
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Election Lessons – Fear Sells. Are You Buying?

Election Lessons – Fear Sells. Are You Buying?

Fear Sells There is absolutely zero doubt about this. For years, one of the unwritten rules in advertising was 'sex sells'. And it did, for everything from beer to shampoo. However, as society rejects the objectification of women and men, sex has been replaced by fear as the most potent advertising tool. A piece in BigThink explains it this way: Yup. Fear works. It has to. It’s what keeps us alive. The problem is, it works so instinctively that when dangers are being peddled by the news media to get our attention, by the marketplace to get our money, or by politicians to get our votes, we are little more than fish on the end of a hook, instinctively afraid and flipping and flopping with fear at the end of a line somebody else is dangling to jerk us around…and the instinctive, subconscious nature of this risk perception system are the rod and reel they’re using, and we really can’t too much about it. Fear...
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Not Everyone Will Love You And That’s OK

Not Everyone Will Love You And That’s OK

Not everyone is going to love you. That's just life. That is also a-ok. As I was watching the Democratic debate this past weekend, the moderator asked all the candidates if "corporate America would love them". Two of the candidates answered "No". Hillary Clinton, though, answered "everyone should". I cringed when I heard this. This is an attitude that says "It's more important for everyone to like me than it is to be myself". [Tweet theme="basic-full"]Not everyone is going to love you, and that's ok![/Tweet] You don't want everyone to love you. You just don't. You don't want to lose the core of yourself by contorting to fit into everyone else's boxes, tossing your principles aside because if you keep them you won't fit, or censoring parts of your personality because they might not be appreciated by everyone. I read something recently that really struck a nerve: If your principles change depending on your circumstances, you don't have principles, you have hobbies. Reading that was like a punch to the gut. It was...
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