Meryl Streep Makes America Uncomfortable

Meryl Streep Makes America Uncomfortable

At the 2017 Golden Globe Awards, during her acceptance speech, Meryl Streep managed to ruffle the feathers of America by calling out the PEOTUS and the press. Now, the chastisement of the press didn't get nearly as much attention as what she said about the incoming President. But there was one performance this year that stunned me. It sank its hooks in my heart. Not because it was good; there was nothing good about it. But it was effective and it did its job. It made its intended audience laugh, and show their teeth. It was that moment when the person asking to sit in the most respected seat in our country imitated a disabled reporter. Someone he outranked in privilege, power and the capacity to fight back. It kind of broke my heart when I saw it, and I still can’t get it out of my head, because it wasn’t in a movie. It was real life. And this instinct to...
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Embrace Your Flaws, Every Damn One

Embrace Your Flaws, Every Damn One

Flaws Are The Gift Of Identity When you begin a period of self reflection, it's inevitable that you're going to see your flaws. That is, naturally, if you're doing it right. Honest self reflection will reveal everything about you, and some of what you'll see isn't going to be flattering. Too often we're all about presenting a beautifully polished face to the public, as if our flaws are something to be ashamed of. They're not. Your imperfections are what make you uniquely you, and that you is beautiful. In today's social media driven, narcissistic world, people often use others' flaws as cyber-weapons, throwing stones and casting darts from behind the safety of a screen. It's no different than growing up when children tease each other for being 'different'. Yet, when you embrace your flaws, nobody can use them against you. In the movie 8 Mile, Eminem plays an up and coming rapper. He spends most of the movie trying to run away from who he...
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5 Rules To Win The Day From @GaryVee

5 Rules To Win The Day From @GaryVee

Win The Day Your intention every single morning is to go out and win the day. Sometimes you may not, yet don't let that stop you from attacking the day with enthusiasm. Now, you may be asking, how do I do this? Well, dear readers, have no fear. Gary Vaynerchuk has some rules you can use to win the day. Gary's Rules Rule #1 - Be Confident The biggest problem today is twofold. On one side, people are confusing cockiness with confidence, and on the other people are lacking confidence. In a previous post, I talked about having the confidence to be you without asking for permission. Be you, be authentic, and be the best you can be. Rule #2 - Positive Vibes Only Misery loves company. It can be difficult to blaze your own trail when you realize how alone you are. Most people like to complain about everything that's wrong in their world because they know it's the easiest way to draw a crowd....
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When Rock Bottom Has A Basement

When Rock Bottom Has A Basement

We've all been there. Just when you think you've hit rock bottom, life opens a door and shoves you down the steps into the basement. It's like when you discover the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train. It's enough to make you want to go What do you do when life knocks you down then sneaks around behind you and kicks you in the balls? Well, you can either writhe around in pain, bemoaning how horrible your life is or you can get up, look life in the face, and tell it that it hits like a bitch. I know it's easier said than done, but I'd rather face life head on than cower like a victim. Shift Your Perspective In a Ted Talk, Sarah Hernholm discusses how the shift from "to" to "for" can change how you see life's troubles. Everything we go through in life is a lesson we need to learn. I know, you're calling bullshit on that, and...
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Quit Asking For Permission To Be You

Quit Asking For Permission To Be You

You Don't Need Permission To Be Great "The reason you're looking for permission is because you know so many people are fakers." It's no secret I love Gary Vaynerchuk. I love his no-hold barred, balls out style that cuts through the bullshit. In the video above, I believe he hits on a very important point. The world is full of fakers. And because the world is full of fakers, seeds of doubt are planted in our minds. Therefore, in order to be seen as credible, you, consciously or unconsciously, ask for permission to be great. If you're being true to your authentic self, then what others are saying won't matter. Cut Through The Noise It's no surprise that the social media landscape is a noise place and it's difficult to be heard. One look at your Facebook timeline and you'll see a plethora of sponsored posts and advertisements promising the next big thing. Over the last 12 months I've subscribed to dozens and dozens of lists...
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The Second Day Is The Hardest Day

The Second Day Is The Hardest Day

The hardest day is always the day after you begin something new. Conventional wisdom, although is that it takes 21 days to create a new habit. Whether or not this is correct is really irrelevant. Creating a new habit takes time, perseverance, and dedication. More often than not, the second day is the most difficult. The first day of a new habit is exciting because it's new. You're motivated, and ready to tackle that "thing" you've been putting off forever. Then comes the next day, and the next, and the next. Soon the new habit loses it's luster and the excitement wears off. By Valentine's Day your new habits and resolutions have fallen by the wayside. Your life returns to the way it was and you resign yourself to the false belief that nothing ever changes. The best example is starting a new habit of working out. January is the busiest time in any gym around the world. Losing weight and getting fit are...
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A New You: What’s Next?

A New You: What’s Next?

What's Your Plan? So, it's New Year's Day. The first day of a new year. If you're like most people, you're staring at 365 brand new days, 365 brand new chances to create the life you truly want. So, you sit down at a blank page and ask yourself...What's next? Start With The End In Mind The only way you can know which path to take is to be firm on what your destination truly is. Otherwise you'll just be rambling along the sidewalks and roads simply hoping you'll end up where you want to go. Don't just say you want to lose weight, name the number and clearly defined your goal. Instead of saying you want to make more money, define a specific amount for the year and then break it down by month, week, or day. Want to find love? Clearly define the attributes you desire and, more importantly those you don't want, and then start living them. When you have clarity around your goal, the...
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The Only Resolution You Need In 2017

The Only Resolution You Need In 2017

Well, it's New Year's Eve and people all around the world are making their New Year's Resolutions. Statistics show that most resolutions are broken or abandoned by Valentine's Day. So why put yourself behind the curve by making a list of things you aren't fully committed to? Instead, make one single resolution for the coming year and for every year following. Make a resolution to create. Skip the usual lists: lose weight, exercise, save money, etc. Focus on creation in the new year. In the next 12 months you can create: A healthier you Memories Your own brand Community Space Art The life you want That's what great about creation...it's an open ended process. You can create anything you want. And creation is a noble form of rebellion in a world gone mad....
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Simon Sinek And The Millennial Question

Simon Sinek And The Millennial Question

Millennial Victims A video of Simon Sinek talking about the 'millennial question', breezed through my Facebook timeline recently. On the first viewing, I thought it to be an excellent explanation of how people of my generation, GenX, can relate to and lead the millennial generation in the workplace. Even after watching it a few times, he makes some very valid points. Yet there is one major flaw in his answer and, unfortunately it's one of the major foundation points of his thesis. Where Simon Is Right I'm now one of the 'older guys' in the work environment. Honestly, I'm not sure how the hell that happened, but it has. I look around my workplace and I see two groups of people: Those like me, 20+ years into their careers, and the 'new kids', those who graduated college after my kids graduated high school and, in some cases, are younger than my oldest daughter. It's been a shock to my system coming to terms with this. At...
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Christmas Isn’t Merry When You’re #Estranged

Christmas Isn’t Merry When You’re #Estranged

Unmerry Christmas Christmas. It's that time of year when everyone is a little sappier, happier, and love seems to fill the air. It's a time for friends and family, to celebrate the memories of the last year. Yet for many people, Christmas is a time of sadness and of longing. It's a time of mourning relationships gone by and of remembering people who are no longer here. And for some, it's a time that simply reminds them that they've been cast aside by those they love. This will be the second Christmas I am estranged from my two daughters. I know there will be no cards in the mail, no text messages coming from them. They've made the decision that they don't want anything to do with their dad. That's the choice they've made. Honestly, since everything went down, I dread the holiday season. Actually, my dread begins in early November, my birthday month, and runs through the first of the year. Last year I didn't put...
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