Tony Robbins: Get Out Of Your Funk

Tony Robbins: Get Out Of Your Funk

In this two minute video from Business Insider, Tony Robbins gives you the straight skinny on how you can pull yourself out of your funk. [Tweet "Life is far too short to feel like crap."] That's not to say that you won't have bad days, but as Tony says, you don't have to live there. When you have a bad day, experience it, acknowledge it, and then move forward. I know it sounds easy. I also know it's not easy to do. Yet what purpose is there in sulking in your bad times? Sure, you might gather a crowd around you who will share in your misery before dismissing your misery and tromping all over it by making their misery more important...or better yet, feed your misery because your feeling bad make them fell better about themselves. Like anything, you can train yourself to be positive. [Tweet "You get what you tolerate"] Don't tolerate being miserable. Don't tolerate being around miserable people. Set your sights and your standards high....
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7 Ways To Raise Your Self Esteem

7 Ways To Raise Your Self Esteem

"I'm not good enough." "I'm not pretty enough." "Nobody cares what I have to say." I'm sure you've said these things, or other things like them, to yourself plenty of times in your life. Hell, I know I have. I also know I got sick and tired of kicking my own ass and holding myself back from unleashing all the awesomeness I had inside myself. Aren't you tired of it, too? Aren't you tired of living a mediocre life, dealing with regret, meandering from day to day because your self esteem sucks? My low self esteem drove me to make stupid decisions in all areas of my life...in how I handled money, the relationships I chose, and even in my career. The good news is that I learned how to boost my self esteem, build my self respect, and finally start moving towards living the life I always wanted to live. Best part is, anyone can do it. [Tweet theme="normal-blue"]You is kind. You is smart. You is important.[/Tweet] Having healthy self esteem...
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Midlife Crisis – A Time For Rebirth And Renewal

Midlife Crisis – A Time For Rebirth And Renewal

A midlife crisis isn't a time to mourn what once was. It's a time to celebrate the birth of what is yet to come. I'm willing to bet that right now you're feeling stuck, lost, in a fog, trapped....and many other synonyms...and you're wondering to yourself "exactly how the f*ck did I get here?" I get it...you had plans. You had dreams. Then one day it happened. You woke up, looked at yourself in the mirror, and wondered how the hell you ended up here. Well, I have some good news and some bad news. The bad news is, you’re here because you chose to be. Little by little, every decision you made took you down the path that has brought you to where you are. From the first job that paid you enough to give up on your dreams to every time you said “no” to new adventures to every time you settled for what was offered instead of waiting for what you wanted…you...
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Be Successful Without Being An Asshat

Be Successful Without Being An Asshat

Can You Be Successful Without Being An Asshat? There are plenty of successful asshats. Problem is, no matter how successful they are, they're still an asshat. There's always been a lot of talk about how becoming successful means you have to be ruthless, unethical, and a downright asshat. Movies have portrayed this, popular fiction has portrayed this. Two of the most popular movies, Wolf of Wall Street and Wall Street, are homages to gaining success by being an asshat. Well, Marie Forelo of MarieTV, believes that not only do you not have to be an asshat to be successful, but doing so can actually be detrimental to your business. In today's world, authenticity is making a comeback. Honestly, I think it's well past time. The days of slick production, focus-group tested messages are over. With the explosive growth of social media, more and more 'celebrities', once thought to be unreachable, are embracing and interacting with their fans outside of controlled environments. Personally, I love...
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Hot Mess Express 027 – Be The Expert

Hot Mess Express 027 – Be The Expert

One of the most common pieces of advice I've given over the last few years is this. If you want to be the expert, then be the expert. I also say that the key to being the expert lies in your being confident. Back when I was in the Navy, my adviser gave me the best piece of advice I'd heard: [Tweet theme="tweet-box-shadow"]Answer confidently. Always. Even when you don't know the answer. #SecondLife[/Tweet] Confidence in yourself is the key to being seen as the expert. If you come across as unsure, indecisive, or easily swayed, your credibility will be damaged. When people don't see you as credible, they won't see you as an expert. The key to building your confidence is simple: [Tweet theme="tweet-box-normal-blue"]Decision + Action + Follow Through = Confidence[/Tweet] In order to get beyond the paralysis by analysis, begin making small decisions and then taking action. Decide what you want to eat and then eat it. Pick something out of the closet and wear it. For...
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It’s Not Locker Room Talk, Donald

It’s Not Locker Room Talk, Donald

I've been in a locker room once or twice in my life and I can honestly say I've never, EVER, heard men talk about women the way Donald Trump did. In fact, the only time I've heard a man say anything like that, it was immediately met with loud and vocal condemnation. Yet, here we are, living in a society where talking about sexually assaulting women is brushed aside as 'that's just what men do'. Wrong. Men speak of women with respect and they teach their sons to speak with respect. They stand in the breech to defend and protect the women in their lives. All politics aside, in the end it comes down to character. There's a scripture passage that says: [Tweet theme="tweet-box-shadow"]Out of an abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks[/Tweet] Character is who you are when you think nobody is watching. The excuse that it was a "private conversation" speaks to the character, more precisely the lack of character, of the one saying these words.   Men, your sons...
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Your Life Is Not A Journey, It’s A Dance

Your Life Is Not A Journey, It’s A Dance

One of the most popular sayings is "Life is a journey, not a destination". Sounds great, right? It's not. We've all been on journeys, and think about what the penultimate goal was...to get somewhere. A journey implies that there is a destination in mind, a finish line, a 'thing' you finally reach so you can rest. You undergo this journey to celebrate it's end. Is that how you want your life to be? To celebrate the end of things? Rejoice that something is over? Not me. To me, life is a piece of music, with each note to be savored mentally and emotionally. It's a dance to be danced with someone you love while that music is playing. I'm not concerned about getting somewhere. Alan Watts - Why Your Life Is Not A Journey from David Lindberg on Vimeo. I'd rather focus on being somewhere. The next time your life seems chaotic, take a second to stop and look around. Be present in the chaos. Look for things in...
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Pain Is Necessary For You To Grow

Pain Is Necessary For You To Grow

Pain. Nobody likes it and we all do everything we can to avoid it. Even if we're in pain in the situations we're in, we'd rather stay there than suffer through the greater pain of change. You'd like to believe life is about seeking pleasure, but it's not. Life, for most people, is wholly about living with a minimum amount of pain. While on the surface this may seem to be a good idea, it's not. It's just a form of self sabotage. [Tweet theme="tweet-box-normal-blue"]Take Chances. Make Mistakes. Pain Nourishes Your Courage - Mary Tyler Moore[/Tweet] Pain is Realization If you're feeling pain, you realize there's something wrong or missing in your life. It shows up as an aching in your soul or a general 'meh' feeling. It's also an indicator that you need to change. [Tweet theme="tweet-box-normal-blue"]The first step to solving a problem is admitting there is one - Zig Ziglar[/Tweet] There's wisdom in Zig's words. What you allow in your life is what will continue. If...
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026 – Where Have All The Boundaries Gone?

026 – Where Have All The Boundaries Gone?

In today's instant communication, social media driven world, it seems that boundaries have become a thing of the past. We've lost the ability to set personal boundaries for discerning what's for public consumption. People feel empowered to upload their thoughts and opinions on everything and even use social media to publicly shame others as a way to get attention. It seems like there's nothing that's off-limits anymore. That's why setting boundaries is so important. Setting boundaries allows you to share what you want to share with the world without getting caught off-guard doing or saying something stupid. They help prevent gossip by denying the drama queens in your life juicy tidbits to spread. Boundaries also allow you to build the life you want without fending off the slings and arrows of those who don't want to see you change. “if you want to live an authentic, meaningful life, you need to master the art of disappointing and upsetting others, hurting feelings, and living with the...
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16 Empowering Beliefs To Live By Today

16 Empowering Beliefs To Live By Today

16 Empowering Beliefs to Live By Today   Your experiences are shaped by your thinking. Even obstacles have a value when you can see it. You can develop convictions that will help you to feel happier and achieve more, regardless of the situation.     Consider these empowering beliefs that you can start using today to transform your life through the power of positive thinking.   Empowering Beliefs to Make You Smile   I understand my potential. You can achieve amazing results when you put your mind to it. Feel excited about reaching your true potential. I count my blessings. List each thing that you have to be grateful for. Remember to include the smaller items, like warm socks or tart cranberries. Expressing your appreciation reminds you of how rich you are. I learn from mistakes. You can make setbacks work for you by focusing on the lessons that they contain. Flubbing one job interview can teach you how to ace the next one. I find meaning in...
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