026 – Where Have All The Boundaries Gone?

026 – Where Have All The Boundaries Gone?

In today's instant communication, social media driven world, it seems that boundaries have become a thing of the past. We've lost the ability to set personal boundaries for discerning what's for public consumption. People feel empowered to upload their thoughts and opinions on everything and even use social media to publicly shame others as a way to get attention. It seems like there's nothing that's off-limits anymore. That's why setting boundaries is so important. Setting boundaries allows you to share what you want to share with the world without getting caught off-guard doing or saying something stupid. They help prevent gossip by denying the drama queens in your life juicy tidbits to spread. Boundaries also allow you to build the life you want without fending off the slings and arrows of those who don't want to see you change. “if you want to live an authentic, meaningful life, you need to master the art of disappointing and upsetting others, hurting feelings, and living with the...
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16 Empowering Beliefs To Live By Today

16 Empowering Beliefs To Live By Today

16 Empowering Beliefs to Live By Today   Your experiences are shaped by your thinking. Even obstacles have a value when you can see it. You can develop convictions that will help you to feel happier and achieve more, regardless of the situation.     Consider these empowering beliefs that you can start using today to transform your life through the power of positive thinking.   Empowering Beliefs to Make You Smile   I understand my potential. You can achieve amazing results when you put your mind to it. Feel excited about reaching your true potential. I count my blessings. List each thing that you have to be grateful for. Remember to include the smaller items, like warm socks or tart cranberries. Expressing your appreciation reminds you of how rich you are. I learn from mistakes. You can make setbacks work for you by focusing on the lessons that they contain. Flubbing one job interview can teach you how to ace the next one. I find meaning in...
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Life is Short, Break All The Rules

Life is Short, Break All The Rules

Rules are made to be broken. All our lives, we've lived by the rules created by other people, whether it's our parents, teachers, or employers, you can't swing a dead cat without hitting someone else's rules. As a kid, we were taught to learn and obey them. There were rewards for following the rules and punishments for breaking them. The problem is, we get so caught up in the reward and punishment mindset that most of us don't ever learn what rules are good for us and which ones hold us back. Thus we end up with a society of mindless drones, going about their business day to day, working hard to stay quiet and in the middle of the herd. What a crappy life. In order to live a full life, there's a few things you need to do. Study The Rules You cannot build a fulfilling life if you don't know what the operating system is. Just like anything else in life, you have to know where...
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Growth Should Inspire You, Not Frighten You

Growth Should Inspire You, Not Frighten You

Personal growth is a scary thing. It means leaving behind a comfortable life and stepping into the unknown. Growth leaves behind the average and known and requires you to step out in faith that all will work out. You know where you are and where you want to be. It's that space in between that can be terrifying.   Like most people you have dreams and goals, yet you lack the plans on how to get from A to B. That's ok. It's perfectly normal. The trick is to be inspired by the possibility of great accomplishments rather than be terrified by the possibility of failure. As Tony Robbins says: The question becomes, then, which thoughts are you going to let drive your growth? Will you let little thoughts of fear and failure keep you stuck where you are? Or will you let little thoughts of how great your life can be inspire you to move forward? How can you keep the fear at bay?...
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3 Simple Ways To Deal With Toxic Family

3 Simple Ways To Deal With Toxic Family

Toxic family can be the most potent poison. From the time you're born, your family, their words, actions, and beliefs shape the person you become. Some of this is intentional, and most of it is totally unintentional. In fact, it falls under the umbrella of "we've always done it that way". Your parent's beliefs were shaped by their parents, and their parent's beliefs were shaped by their parents, and so on and so on. Now, while your beliefs, and that bullshit story we all tell ourselves, was formed by our families at a very early age, that doesn't mean that you can just lay all the blame at their feet for the way your life turned out. As you got older, and your knowledge of the world around you expanded, you became more and more responsible for making your own decisions. So, let's assume for the moment that you've identified your toxic beliefs and are making progress towards changing and eliminating them....
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Colin Kaepernick – Hot Mess Or Hero?

In the last 24 hours, Colin Kaepernick has become the whipping boy for a good portion of America. What what his crime? Not standing for the National Anthem. That’s it. When the anthem was played at this weekend’s San Francisco 49ers preseason game, Kaepernick found a spot among the Gatorade coolers and sat quietly. Judging by the reaction of the sports world, and society in general, you’d have thought he dug up Vince Lombardi’s body and peed on it at the 50 yard line. After the game, he was asked why he didn’t stand. He said: “”I am not going to stand up to show pride in a flag for a country that oppresses black people and people of color,” Kaepernick told NFL Media’s Steve Wyche, confirming Pro Football Talk’s original report. “To me, this is bigger than football, and it would be selfish on my part to look the other way. There are bodies in the street and people getting paid leave...
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How @samueladamsbeer Won A Customer For Life

In the span of about 60 hours this week, I had two distinctly different customer service experiences. One experience ended up ensuring they had a customer for life, while the other ensured they’d lost a customer forever. On Wednesday this week, my oldest daughter and I went to dinner at a local TGIFriday;s. Now, I like Friday’s. I like their food, the vibe, the happy hour specials. Our family has been a customer of theirs for years. On this night, however, the ridiculously poor service ensured that neither I nor my family would be going back to their restaurant again. Long story short, the place wasn’t busy, maybe half a dozen tables had people, yet we had to wait an inordinate amount of time for our server to come by and after he took our orders, he never once came back to see if we needed another drink, if the food was good…anything. On the other side, this Thursday I brought home...
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You Are A Badass Unicorn…So Act Like It!

You are a badass unicorn. There is nobody on this planet that is you-er than you and not one single soul will use your unique talents and gifts the way that you do. So, why do you spend your time begging you and everyone else around you to think that you’re a loser? Self deprecating humor is asking everyone to think of us as a loser. And not in the loveable “Charlie Brown” kind of way, but at the pathetic member of the group that has nothing to offer except to be a walking punchline. Making yourself into a joke is one of the most effective means of self-sabotage in our repertoire. Whether we think it’s true or not, our subconscious mind takes it in as the truth and adds that to the filter through which we see life. Being able to laugh at ourselves is important. Constantly taking life way too seriously imparts the belief that there’s no room in life for...
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HME 22 – Your Inner Child Is A Dumbass

Your Inner Child Is A Dumbass A serious dumbass. Think back to all the things you did as a kid, and soon you’ll realize what a dumbass you really were. Curious? Yes. Playful? Yes. And in a lot of ways, dumber than shit. When I was a kid I didn’t realize you shouldn’t unscrew an electric outlet while it still had power. Although I did learn that lesson very quickly when I got shocked and thrown down a set of stairs. Psychology teaches that our beliefs that shape our worldview are imprinted in out subconscious by the time we reach our teen years. The things we learn, the examples we see, the things we believe, they’re all installed into your life’s operating system before you get your driver’s license. So, let me ask you this. If, when you look back, you realize what a dumbass you were as a kid…. WHY THE FUCK DO YOU LET THAT KID RUN YOUR LIFE?? That dumbass kid is like...
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HME 21 – Tony Robbins Says ‘Blame Elegantly’

Blame Elegantly Blame. It’s the great excuse maker. It’s so simple to point your fingers at other people, other circumstances, and blame them for your life sucking the way it does. Blaming absolves you of taking responsibility for having made the crap decisions that brought you to this point. This weekend, I watched the Tony Robbins documentary on Netflix “I Am Not Your Guru”. During one of the filmed interventions, he told a young woman that if she was going to blame her dad for all the bad shit in her life, she damn well better blame him for all the good stuff, too. If her dad was the person she wanted him to be, and they had the relationship she wished they’d had, she wouldn’t be half the person she is today. When you assume…. It’s easy to put our own assumptions on other people and say that ‘they should have known better’ or that ‘they CHOSE not to behave differently’, when the...
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