026 – Where Have All The Boundaries Gone?
In today’s instant communication, social media driven world, it seems that boundaries have become a thing of the past. We’ve lost the ability to set personal boundaries for discerning what’s for public consumption. People feel empowered to upload their thoughts and opinions on everything and even use social media to publicly shame others as a way to get attention. It seems like there’s nothing that’s off-limits anymore.
That’s why setting boundaries is so important.
Setting boundaries allows you to share what you want to share with the world without getting caught off-guard doing or saying something stupid. They help prevent gossip by denying the drama queens in your life juicy tidbits to spread. Boundaries also allow you to build the life you want without fending off the slings and arrows of those who don’t want to see you change.
“if you want to live an authentic, meaningful life, you need to master the art of disappointing and upsetting others, hurting feelings, and living with the reality that some people just won’t like you. It may not be easy, but it’s essential if you want your life to reflect your deepest desires, values, and needs.”
Don’t Be Afraid To Disappoint Others
By setting boundaries, you’re going to disappoint some people. That’s just life. In fact, those who are going to be most disappointed are those who are heavily invested in keeping you the way they are. People don’t like to change. When you decide you’re going to change, those people realize the way they interact with you is going to change. That scares them.
The boundaries you need to set are:
- Distinguishing between public and private information
- Determining levels of trust and relationship intimacy
- Keeping the haters and nay-sayers at bay
Setting these simple boundaries keeps you focused on who you’re becoming and the life you’re building.
Life is too short to deal with bullshit distractions.